Trailing Spouses When Relocating

According to the Employee Relocation Council, nearly one million Americans relocate for purposes of a job each year. Over 75% are married.

So what happens to the spouse in this situation?

The decision to move means leaving family, friends, maybe even a career behind. But most spouses are willing to take the plunge for a career opportunity or happiness for their 'better half'. Many corporations understand this and try to compensate for the inconvenience. As a matter of fact, relocation assistance is often used as a recruiting tool. For some it includes a bonus, arranging job interviews for the spouse, flying the whole family back and forth to visit the area or even moving a wine collection. However, even after the perks, there are some things that the trailing spouse will have to adjust to.

While the transferee is submerged into the new environment as an employee, the trailing spouse may have to handle the issues of finding a home, getting the kids in school, making new friends and adjusting.

Some things that a trailing spouse may want to consider during this transition:

· What are your long-term career goals? Contact the local Chamber of Commerce, register with employment agencies, ask for referrals from friends, family, and your current boss or get to know people in the neighborhood for possible leads. This may be a good time to start that business you always dreamed of doing!

· Reaching out in your new community is a great way to meet people and establish new social and business networks. Are you passionate about a cause or have an interest in something? Now would be a great time to Donate time to a non-profit organization, starting a new hobby or advancing your education. This is a great way to reach out in your community and meet new people.

· Are there any family responsibilities you need to take care of? In regards to healthcare or finances, for example. Perhaps you have children that will be relocating with you or you are the caregiver to a parent.

Answering these questions will help the trailing spouse to determine what's most important during this stage of their life. The spouse’s human resources department might have a special program to direct them in finding organizations or support groups. It's also important to attend activities where they can become acquainted with other trailing spouses.

Moving is said to be one of the top five stress producers, but if the trailing spouse can communicate and take things one step at a time, they will be the prevailing spouse!

Share your needs or concerns with your realtor and perhaps he/she will be able to point you in the right direction.